#StudyingSociety:My hair, Your problem?| “It’s because your hair is not normal.”

“Define normal”, I asked.

You know that moment when people say these things that are not very smart and you start wondering if there’s bleach in their head?! Well that was one of them for me!

This is from a conversation that I had with a friend over coffee. On my work lanyard, I have a badge that say “Don’t touch my hair” because it is cool and also, somehow, people think it is a very much okay thing to do…. don’t ask!

So, we started discussing this and I was really trying to explain to him how weird that was. I also tried to tell him that funnily enough, this mainly happens to black women. He just could not see the problem. He came up with all kind of arguments such as it’s affectionate, it’s nothing  and so on and so forth. I refuted all of them. Aaaaaaand that’s when he hit me with the “it’s because your hair is not normal”. I almost hit the roof!

 

“What is normal hair? Please please, define normal for me! As far as I am concerned, my hair is normal for me and all the people that have the same type of hair as me think the same!”

He began stuttering. That was a nice load of rubbish what he ha just said. He realised it. Or so I thought.

I was quite blunt and asked him if his hair was normal and if so, why is that?

Is it the length? The texture? The colour?

Believe me or not but I could not understand where he was coming from! I had to remind him that he is Indian, for goodness sake.

What are we using as reference to normal hair? I would love to know.

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I really want people to stop making black girls, especially the ones with kinky, coarse hair, that their hair is not normal or not professional.

Do they need to be reminded that it is the hair that grows out of our scalp?

I have gone past the understanding and teaching point. I am fed up with it all now!

I want people to stop asking stupid questions about my hair! I also want them to stop touching my hair or reaching for it randomly. Is that too much to ask?

 

It doesn’t matter if your hair is natural or relaxed, long or short, real or not, nobody should be entering your personal space, trying to touch it just because they feel like it or because it is nice.

This is the type of thing I have to deal with almost everyday in my local area.

 

Be empowered my Highness, 👸🏾👑✊🏿

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Mustard and gold details || #WhatIWoreToChurch

Back with an outfit post! I hope you are well and are having a good evening!

 

Have you noticed the pattern that is coming up… the Sunday outfit posts?

I hope I can sustain it and stay consistent with it. And, without further ado let’s get into it!

 

A couple of weeks ago, I posted an outfit with another white shirt from Zara. Well, I bought this one at the same time. It was also on sale for a tenner.

You can NEVER have enough white shirts! Trust me.

 

 

I will talk about that in another post, but I am convinced that I have been glowing lately. My skin is just popping and stuff- lol!

I have a feeling that the white shirt helps matters too.

 

Choker: Primark

Earrings- creoles: Primark? I can’t remember. I have had them for aegis!

 

 

 

I don’t normally go to church with trousers but since last night i had made up my mind to tie my hair with this specific wrapper. After a mental check- whilst in bed- I realised that theses trousers would match and make the whole outfit pop… boy was i right!!

 

I tied my hair simply because I am already tired of my protective style. I want to take my twists down and deep wash my hair.

Baby got back… or nah! Free flowing: that’s what I felt like today.

Mustard skinny jeans: Primark- from 3/4 years ago!

Behold a creased shirt- one of my pet peeves 😒😞

Believe me or not, I ironed that shirt before leaving the house but as soon as I sat in my car, I had lost the battle.

 

 

Selfie overload in my camera roll— here’s one!

 

 

Today the weather was alright. The sky was blue so I thought I would share it with y’all…. Enjoy!

 

How was your Sunday?

Be and remain empowered always 👑✊🏿👸🏾


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Project 20 Pan- Update #4

Good morning/ afternoon/ evening!

How is/ was your day? What are you up to?

Below is the fourth update of my Project 20 Pan-introduced here. As for the first three, I will strike through the products that I have completely finished. I will also add four asterisks (****- that’s becoming a whole lot of them, right?!) next to the product I know will be the next to go because they are quite low or really near the end at the time I am typing this. Therefore, in about 2 weeks time- the next update, I would have finished with them.

MAKEUP

1- MAC studio fix powder foundation. 

***2- Rimmel lasting finish primer.

Continue reading “Project 20 Pan- Update #4”

Project 20 Pan – Update #1

Hi there! How is it going queens and kings?

Here is the first update of my Project 20 Pan. I will strike through the products that I have completely finished.I will also add an asterisk (*) next to the product I know will be the next to go because they are o so low or near the end at the time I am typing this. Therefore in about 2 weeks time, I would have finished with them. Continue reading “Project 20 Pan – Update #1”

FridayFace: After party pictures😎😎

Hi lovelies!

How art thee? I hope you had a blessed start of the week.

I’m coming back with a series of after party pictures. I went out on Friday and when I got home at 3.45, I felt so fresh I thought I should take some pictures.


  
What do you know about these 4-o’clock selfies? LOL

On my face I have my everyday makeup with some bronze/gold eyeshadows from L’Oreal and one of my favourite reds from Rimmel (107- Kate Moss).

Although my eyebrows nor my hair were done, I was still feeling myself.
What y’all say? Take great care and be empowered ✊🏿✊🏿

LoveBlog#17|| I love travelling…

But above that I love coming back home! To my room, my bed, my stuff!!
I enjoyed this trip so much. I always have fun when I go abroad -by myself or with friends. It is always a pleasure. 

Hope you enjoyed this travel journal. A final post is coming up soon. Worry not! 

On to a busy Friday and weekend. Then 6 weeks of lesson before Easter holidays. 

I still need to finalise my plans for these 2 weeks. Work in progress…
What are yours plans for Easter? Any holidays? A trip to somewhere nice? 

Visit the world around you and enjoy it. Be empowered my dearest dears ✊🏿

LoveBlog #8|| Moving

It’s the last week before half term. 

I have a lesson observation coming.

I have to fill in intervention plans for my year 10. 

We’re moving house!! 

What a week. All the ingredients to get me exhausted. 
Despite all of this, I try to remind myself that the Lord is my strength. 
Anyway. As I said, we are moving out of our flat to one bigger and better in many aspects. I have the feeling that I have been packing forever and it’s not finishing. When did I acquire all of these things?! Goodness me! 

I have a love and hate relationship with moving house. I love having new decorations and all that stuff but the actual moving… ugh!!

Also, I will start finding things that I had forgotten about… yay! 

The other positive thing about this move is that we have a “full week” to do it. A little bit less pressure I guess. 

I feel like I have so much to do and I also feel soooo lazy about every single one of them. I gotta keep going!!  

Before I leave, let me share this quote someone shared with me on Monday:

 
I’ll catch you guys tomorrow. Until then, do like me and remain high and empowered!