#StudyingSociety: “Would you date a woman with an Afro? “

#StudyingSociety: “Would you date a woman with an Afro? “

Seriously, social media is full of people asking stupid questions!! It makes me sad…

The other day, as I was scrolling through my Instagram’s explorer page and I saw this picture with 3 photos of the (same) (gorgeous) woman with her hair in a MASSIVE Afro. It came with the question: “would you date a woman with an Afro?”… yeah, SAME!
I want to rephrase the question for them: would you date a woman with her 4c hair in its natural state?

Because really that’s the question they asked. I think they didn’t realise that a black woman with an Afro is like a Caucasian woman with her hair brushed down. It is nothing else but a NATURAL hairstyle.

My Afro is what my hair looks like when I comb it out. The same way, I could easily have braids, cornrows, bantu knots, twists and all this kind of jazzy hairstyles.

Cut us some slacks. You are not dating a woman for her hairstyle. If it is the case, well… let me tell you about that deception that is coming your way very fast. The afro can and will most likely change.
Now, it could well be that they were talking about natural hair in general. Maybe they amalgamated the two terms “Afro” and “natural hair”. In this case, it would be a whole other discussion for another day. Again, I could rephrase it in many ways to show the person how thick they sound.

 

Excuse me but I get really sensitive when it comes to black women with 4c hair… especially the bashing of it.

 

So please, I’m begging you, wear your hair with all the pride in the world. This hair came out of your scalp- own the life out of it! Please!

 

I could go on and on on this topic but that’s not what we are trying to do!

Thank you for reading and until next time, be empowered, always queen with the big crown…. I see you babe!

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If I were… || My Chinese portrait

If I were… || My Chinese portrait

A Chinese Portrait is an abstract artistic depiction of a person. You complete several sentences of the form “If I were a(n) X, I would be…” to provide insight into the way you feel.

If I were a color, I would be RED. It is such a vibrant colour! As clothes or accessories, it can make you stand out from the crowd…. so me!

If I were a fruit I would be MANGO or STRAWBERRY. The first one is very sweet and reminds of back home and the second on is red and yummy.

If I were a season, I would be SUMMER. The sun, the heat, ice creams … do i need to add anything?

If I were a country, I would be HAITI. I wish people would give a chance to this country and see all its beauty and what it has to offer…

If I were a natural phenomenon, I would be SUNRISE. Have  you seen one lately?

If I were a month, I would be OCTOBER. It’s my birth month.

If I were a job, I would be TEACHING… what I am doing right now. Because I believe education and knowledge are powerful tools in the hands of the wise.

If I were a transport, I would be a PLANE because it is a cool way of travelling. Being in the cloud is awesome.

If I were one of the seven wonder of the world, I would be THE COLOSSEUM as it is the only one I have seen my own eyes. Too easy I know.

If I were one of the 5 elements, I would be FIRE because there is so much energy released   during a fire.

If I were an historical year, I would be 1804- the year of the Haitian revolution.

If I were one of the 5 senses, I would be TOUCH.

 

 

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#StudyingSociety: So… depression is not a white man’s disease?

I am asking in the same way many people think that sickle cell anaemia is a black people disease. That doesn’t make me ignorant… does it?

Hear where I am coming from… please!

In my 25 years of age, the vast majority of people suffering from depression that I have heard off or known are melanin deficient people. It is my observation. Do you have to agree? The answer is “no”. You may have had a different experience.

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Twitter, blogs, YouTube and the internet in general have made me aware of all our black and other coloured people- young and old, suffering from depression and above all, willing to talk about it and asking for help.

 

Out of all these melaninated people, again the vast majority seems to be located in “western” countries or countries from the north hemisphere. Is depression then a “white man’s land disease”? Well…. let’s have a look at this map found online

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Shocking! Or not! People from the red/amber/peach countries would have all the reasons to be depressed. Then, why is there this feeling that it is a disease for the white man?

Maybe it is that we don’t call it the same. Maybe we do suffer from it but when you are constantly in survival mode, you can’t let yourself feel down because of what people said about you or because of what people have.

As a black woman, I was raised and therefore grew up  with that mentality that things happen- whether you believe in God or any higher power or not-  and we must be go getter! In Haiti, things barely come to you served on a silver platter.

I know for a fact that some people think that black people that are feeling depressed here in England are “soft”. They have left that British mentality and way of doing things get to their head… whatever that means.

 

Now, I am no expert in depression and mental health issues and will never claim to be. Nor do I suffer from it. I just want to educate myself and understand what people go through. I see the brain as this amazing part of the human that brings forth so many questions.

Are you a PoC suffering from depression? Do you talk about it with people around you? How are you getting helped?

I want to encourage you and I pray that you are seeking and are able to find help. I declare full recovery over your life.

Be and remain empowered always 👑✊🏿👸🏾


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LoveBlog#22|| I love a new hairstyle/ cut… (another one!)💈💈

I live for the #theCutLife! Some of the cuts are just sick!!

Got my hair done yesterday and again, my barber gave me liiiiiiiife!

And on top of that, I have purple hair. How cool is that huh?!

   
    
   
Are you obsessed with any # on Instagram?!

Let a sista know so I can have a look👀👀

As always, remain empowered ✊🏿✊🏿